Rethinking Infidelity


Couples therapist Esther Perel is an expert in cheating. She’s spent the past six years of her career focusing on couples who are dealing with infidelity — and she’s heard a lot of stories.

“It’s never been easier to cheat — and it’s never been more difficult to keep a secret,” she says. “The majority of affairs would normally have died a natural death. Today they are discovered primarily through the phone or through social media or though the computer.”

But infidelity doesn’t have to signal the end of a relationship. “Many affairs will remake a relationship,” Perel says. “You can renegotiate the entire thing. … There will be post-traumatic stress — and [then] there may be post-traumatic growth.” To read more from TERRY GROSS, click here.